Happy Easter!!

We went to the mall today to visit the Easter Bunny and Maria did not like him at all! In her defense, he was a little freaky! There wasn't anyone else in line when we first arrived and he wasn't moving a muscle. I had a hard time determining whether he was a real bunny or fake! He must have been sleeping under that big head!


We also went to Scheels and Daddy was able to purchase the bike carrier he has had his eye on. Hopefully he and Maria will be able to put on a lot of miles this Spring and Summer. She seems to like it...after we got home, Dave put her in it and wheeled her around the house and she giggled like crazy!

Maria is gifted! Dave and I laugh and tease each other that Maria is so incredibly smart that we think she is gifted. She is doing so many new things. She's sort of our little command baby. We could spend all night asking her to do something and she would oblige. Some of the things she is currently doing are:

Kissing On Demand: I am a huge culprit of asking her to kiss mama numerous times in a row. She always does it and never complains, so I think I will keep asking until she denies me.

Retrieves Any Object: She is a great fetch player! She will keep herself occupied for hours by bringing the object of the moment (usually a ball, but not always) and one of us throws it across the room, she retrieves it and brings it back, process starts all over.

Trying To Draw: I don't think she has actually laid down any ink herself without assistance, but she's close. She finds a pen and something to write on...usually old junk mail or a magazine and knows how to hold the pen and tries to draw. I know, "Bad Mama" for not having crayons or something in the house that will produce color easier than a pen, but I didn't think we would need any this soon!

Yell At Birds And Dogs: For some reason the dogs next door and any bird that chirps gets yelled at by Maria. It is so hilarious that I sometimes park her by the back door when the dogs are barking just to listen to her give them heck!

She is developing such a little personality that it is fun to just sit and watch her or interact with her. We are having a wonderful time being parents to this little gem that it is hard to fathom our life without her.

Speaking of Gems....she just crawled by me on her way to the toys and she apparently has some stinky gems she needs taken care of right now! Whew...I need to open a window!! Talk to you again soon! Stephanie

OK...we have finally taught Maria something! Just kidding...we have taught her lots of things...it's just we can't repeat most of them here! Here is daddy trying to get her to do the "soooo big"...which she actually does really well now!! She hasn't really gotten the patty cake thing going yet...except she does laugh like crazy when you do it with her!

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THE CHOSEN HEART

Longing for a child to love,
I'd wish upon the stars above.
In my heart I always knew,
A part of me was meant for you.

I think how happy we will be,
Once I adopt you, and you adopt me.

I dream of all the joy you'll bring,
Imagining even the littlest things.
The way it will feel to hold you tight,
And tuck you in every night.

The drawings on the refrigerator door,
And childhood toys across the floor.
The favorite stories read again and again,
And hours of games with make believe friends.

The day you took my outstretched hand,
A journey ended, but our lives began.
Still mesmerized by your sweet face,
Still warmed inside by our first embrace.

I promised to give you a happy home,
And a loving family all your own.
A house you've now made complete,
With laughter, smiles and tiny feet.

A parent is one who guides the way,
Know I will be there everyday.
Rest easy as each night you sleep,
A lifetime of love is yours to keep.

Longing for a child to love,
I'd wish upon the stars above.
In my heart I always knew,
A part of me belonged to you.

Tonight on one of the adoption blogs I subscribe to, someone asked what was our favorite adoption song, or the song that reminded us most of our adoption journey?

I immediately thought of a song that I discovered shortly after we received our referral of Maria. It will always have significant meaning for me, and I hope someday for Maria. I think the lyrics are beautiful and especially poignant for us. I have reposted the video that I made with our referral pictures of Maria....look how tiny she is! The video has the initial pictures of Maria, the pictures of the first time we met her and our first visit trip. The song is Lullabye by the Dixie Chicks...forever known by me as Maria's Lullabye...Enjoy!


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Here are the lyrics:

They didn't have you were I come from
Never knew the best was yet to come
Life began when I saw your face
And I hear your laugh like a serenade

How long do you want to be loved?
Is forever enough? Is forever enough?
How long do you want to be loved?
Is forever enough, cuz I'm never never giving you up

I slip in bed when you're asleep
To hold you close and feel your breath on me
Tomorrow will be so much to do
So tonight I'll drift in a dream with you

How long do you want to be loved?
Is forever enough? Is forever enough?
How long do you want to be loved?
Is forever enough, cuz I'm never never giving you up

As you wander through this troubled world
In search of all things beautiful
You can close your eyes and you're miles away
And hear my voice like a serenade

How long do you want to be loved?
Is forever enough? Is forever enough?
How long do you want to be loved?
Is forever enough, cuz I'm never never giving you up

How long do you want to be loved?
Is forever enough? Is forever enough?
How long do you want to be loved?
Is forever enough, cuz I'm never never giving you up

Is forever enough cuz I'm never never giving you up

WoW!! Tomorrow we will have been home for one month!! It has been the most exciting, exhausting and truely memorable month of my life!!

I'm sorry I haven't posted much...I actually haven't done much of anything, except get to know Maria! We came home on the 15th...had a wonderful Christmas and New Years and are now starting to get used to our every day life

She is crawling all over the house and is now trying to get up on her feet from a crawling position. It won't be too long and she will be cruising while holding onto furniture and then watch out, she'll be walking!! It seems like she has gotten so much bigger just since we have been home.

She eats really well...although don't try to give her any of that baby food...no way!! That stuff is for babies!! She only eats whatever Mommy and Daddy are eating!! I guess it's easier that way...and who am I to argue with a 9 month old who has made up her mind??

She loves her two papa's and grandma's and all of her cousins. She especially loves when the Headlee boys come over and love on her. It's probably not a good sign for either of us actually...Not good for Val (my sister) that her boys seem to really like kissing Maria and not good for me that Maria really likes them kissing her!!

I have to give a big shout out and say Congratulations to Emily and Jason...they just found out that they will be having a boy! Emily is due in May!

And also a shout out to my brother Shane and his wife Jane...they will find out this week what gender their baby is! I think they secretly want a boy...so that's what I'm hoping for!! They are due in June...Babies Everywhere!!

We got Maria's first professional pictures taken today, so I thought I would share. Now I'm not biased or anything...but isn't she just about the cutest thing you ever did see??





Click on the link to the right to see more of her pictures! Talk to you soon!!
Stephanie

Russian orphan appreciating her new life in South Dakota
Posted by: "Karen Holt" karenholt@compuserve.com rhouse77
Tue Dec 26, 2006 2:56 pm (PST)
Russian orphan appreciating her new life in South Dakota

By Russ Keen, Aberdeen American News

ABERDEEN - Lessons in the art of gracefully and gratefully receiving
Christmas gifts might be taken from a 5-year-old Aberdeen girl who, until a
few months ago, lived in an orphanage in Russia.

Other than a few clothes, Natasha Nicole Cleveland's only worldly possession
when she came to Aberdeen was a little cross fastened to a piece of twine to
wear as a necklace, her mother, Nancy Cleveland of Aberdeen, said.

Nancy adopted Natasha in the spring. The two became a family on Easter
Sunday.

"She brought nothing. We started from scratch," Nancy said.

Every little thing Natasha has acquired since astounds her, Nancy said.

Natasha is not the kind of kid who turns up her nose when she gets socks
instead of toys. Nancy recalled her daughter's amazement when she opened the
first gifts from her mother when they first met at the orphanage about a
year ago. They were simple gifts of clothing, including socks.

Natasha examined every item slowly, carefully and lovingly, looked up at her
mother's face and said in Russian, "Are these really all for me?"

"She couldn't believe it," Nancy said.

Natasha gave Nancy a profound gift that day, too.

"That very first day I met her she called me 'Mama,'" Nancy said. "I didn't
expect that. I was taken aback."

Other simple gifts: Natasha is also not the kind of kid to whine when it's
time to jump in the tub. It was like she had entered heaven when she slid
into her first bathtub full of warm water in her Aberdeen home, Betty
Sanders of Aberdeen, Natasha's grandmother and Nancy's mother, said.

"She just relished being in that much water," Sanders said. "She laughed and
giggled, dunked her head and laid back in it."

Nancy said she's not sure how the orphanage kept kids clean.

"They don't tell you a lot. But it was obvious Natasha didn't know about
bathtubs," Nancy said.

Long hair

Natasha is also discovering the simple gift of pretty hair. The 50 kids at
the orphanage near Pskov, Russia, all had butch haircuts - boys and girls,
Nancy said, apparently for hygiene.

"People here thought she was a boy," Nancy said. "So, she has been wanting
long hair."

As Nancy related the story, Natasha jumped on the back of the sofa on which
her mother sat and began to play with her mother's long hair.

"She loves to put pigtails in my hair," Nancy said.

Natasha now has her own. Last week for the first time, her blond hair
reached the length that she could have two pigtails.

"That first day she spent hours flipping them with her fingers," Nancy said.

And Natasha is not the kind of kid to crab while traveling long distances.
When she left the orphanage with her mother, they boarded a train for a
12-hour trip to Moscow. Undoubtedly, it was Natasha's first sustained
glimpse of the world outside of the orphanage, Nancy said.

"She was like a bird let out of a cage that night on that train," Nancy
said. "She kept moving around looking out of the windows. She stayed awake
for hours beyond her bedtime."

Shares what she gets

Natasha is also not the kind of kid to hoard what she gets. Her very first
meal in Aberdeen was a roast-beef dinner prepared by her grandmother.
Natasha filled her plate with all the warm goodies and promptly,
unexpectedly handed it over to her mother. The moment was tender and
touching beyond words, Nancy said.

"She wanted to make sure I ate first."

This is, of course, Natasha's first U.S.-style Christmas. When she tasted
her first candy cane a few days ago, her bright eyes conveyed the delight
her taste buds were experiencing, Nancy said. The girl offered her mother a
lick on the cane.

"She wanted me to try it," Nancy said. "She always wants me to know what she
is feeling."

Mostly, they are good feelings.

"There are so many firsts for her. There is so much for her to absorb. She
goes through most days with excitement and giggles."

Learning English

Natasha is learning English rapidly and has reached the point where she
talks in sentences of a few words each, Nancy said. Natasha shared a few
thoughts in English. She likes her cousins, some of whom live far away.

"Talk to them on the telephone," Natasha said. That's one of her favorite
activities.

She also sang her ABCs, counted to 20 and sang, with her mother, "You better
watch out. You better not pout. You better not cry. I'm telling you why.
Santa Claus is coming to town."

One of her favorite phrases is "Oh, my gosh," which she utters whenever
something amazes her - which is frequently, Nancy said.

Natasha also likes to do dishes, help clean and cook.

"Whatever you're doing, she wants to do. We wonder how long it will last,"
Sanders said with a laugh.

Fulfillment for Nancy

Not only does Natasha have a mom. Nancy has her first child.

"We wanted to have kids," she said of her and her late husband, Steve
Cleveland.

He died of cancer in 1987 in San Bernardino, Calif., where the couple lived.
Medication he was on during his illness made it unwise to conceive, Nancy
said.

Steve had blond hair and blue eyes, as does Natasha. That would please
Steve, Nancy said.

"And she has his last name," she said.

A sister of Nancy's, who lives in Maryland with her husband, adopted a boy
from Russia two years before Nancy adopted Natasha. That's when Nancy
started thinking about it. She helped her sister and brother-in-law through
their process, and they helped her.

Natasha has filled a void in Nancy's life, Sanders said with tears welling.
Also, Natasha is Sanders' only grandchild who lives close enough for daily
contact.

"It's nice to have a grandchild around to spoil," she said. "It's just a
thrill."

Life has not been perfect for Natasha since finding a mom. Shortly after she
came to Aberdeen, Nancy learned through an interpreter that Natasha missed
her friends at the orphanage.

"She wanted to fly back and bring her friends over here," Nancy said.

But now she has close friends in her neighborhood and at her preschool, Dare
to Dream, Nancy said.

Like most kids, she hopes to get stuff from Santa - "a baby-doll high
chair," she said.

The girl has told her mother, "Santa needs to bring me presents because I
have been good." And she also wonders how Santa will know where she is on
Christmas because the family plans to travel.

Worship, prayer

Natasha loves to attend Mass at Sacred Heart Catholic Church, where she was
baptized Oct. 14, Nancy's birthday, wearing a beaded dress Natasha selected.
She becomes upset during Mass if she can't see the Rev. Edward Pierce, Nancy
said.

Natasha loves to sing in church, repeating the word "Alleluia" while other
worshippers sing other words, Nancy said.

And Natasha likes to pray before she goes to sleep.

"I always ask her, 'What do you want to pray about tonight?'" Nancy said.
Natasha often chooses other people and recently expressed what could be
called her Christmas wish for each and every child in orphanages.

"One night, she said she wanted to pray for all kids to have a mama or a
papa," Nancy said.

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Rapid City, SD

Karen H
Mom to A from St Petersburg BH #1, & W from Tula Reg. BH
Family Stories, Funding, Regional Lists & adoption links at my website
http://www.karensadoptionlinks.com

One week ago tonight at this time we were packing our bags and getting ready to come home! We have been home for 6 days and it has been incredible. I haven't had much time to do anything but help Maria become accustomed to our home, but it has been the best 6 days of my life.

I thought that I had gotten to know her when we were in Guatemala together, but I know now that she didn't show us much of her personality while we were there! She has soo much more personality than I could have imagined!

I also now know just how sad she was to leave. I didn't have anything to compare her moods to, but now I do. I can tell now that she was genuinely upset and sad to be away from her foster mother. She has adjusted well over the past few days. She now wakes up happy and goes to sleep happy and is pretty much happy all day!

I think we have begun to bond fairly well. She looks to me for the things she needs and when she wants to be held. She looks to Dave for entertainment and doesn't like it when he leaves the room, but she is getting used to the idea that when he leaves...he always comes back!

It's going to be a busy weekend! We are going to have out of town guests and a few visitors over the weekend. We of course will then be celebrating Christmas Eve with our families on Sunday and will be waking early on Christmas Day to see if Santa came down the chimney.

Speaking of Santa...We went to the mall and got Maria's picture taken with Santa. She was bound and determined not to smile...until we walked away from Santa, then of course there was a smile from ear to ear!!

Click on the link below to see Maria make an Elf of herself!!

http://www.elfyourself.com/?userid=4f76e6f4fef90f0ff54671dG06122110

Merry Christmas!!

Oh My Gosh!!

I can't believe the time to say this has actually arrived.

We will be leaving on Sunday, December 10th (albeit very late on the 10th) to go get our sweet Maria!! We won't arrive in Guatemala City until 5:30 am on December 11th. That's OK...who needs sleep when they are doing something this important anyway!!

On Monday, our Foster Mother, Lidia, will bring Maria to the hotel some time that day, we haven't found out when yet, but some time that day. At that time, we will also meet with our attorney's assistant to fill out the remainder of the paperwork. It's simple stuff, like we promise to make sure her vaccinations are up to date within 30 days, that kind of stuff! Nothing to worry about!

Then on Tuesday, we have our appointment at the US Embassy. That is where we swear that we are the people on the documents that have been submitted and Maria becomes a US Citizen!! Yea!! Add one to the rolls Census Takers!! And make sure you change that law about adoptive children being President, because that is what our Maria aspires to be!!

On Wednesday, our attorney's assistant goes to the US Embassy to get our completed paperwork that we have to give to the Immigration Officers when we get to our first stop in the Great Ole U S of A.

We could leave Guatemala anytime after that...about 3:00 pm on Wednesday. The only flight I could get, however, was on Friday. We will arrive in Sioux Falls at 9:11pm on Friday, December 15th. I know most of my and Dave's family plan to meet us at the airport and then come over to our house for coffee and cookies, or beer and pizza...which ever you prefer!! If you are reading this and have been following our story, we would love to have you there to celebrate!! Please don't hesitate to come!!

I have mixed feelings about Maria leaving Guatemala. Although I so desperately want to get her to our home, I also know that she is leaving behind something she will never get back...her connection with her homeland.

In her short 8 months on earth, she will have lost her birth mother, her foster mother, her birth country, her culture, her native language, and her identity. That's a lot to absorb. I don't think as a 39 year old I can completely comprehend what that's like, so I don't think it's possible for anyone younger to even try to ponder. I feel bad about that.

I know that I will work very hard to ensure that she has all of the resources she needs to feel that connection, but I have a feeling that once you leave...it's never the same. Makes me a little sad.

She is however the most loved little girl in the tri-state area and I can't wait to go love on her! Her little cheeks are going to be peppered with soooo many kisses on Monday, she will look like she has a rash!!

Please join us on Friday evening to welcome the newest US Citizen to Sioux Falls. Maria Rene Richter!

We Finally Have PINK!!

That means that we have been issued our appointment with the US Embasy in Guatemala. The appointment is on a pink piece of paper...thus the term "we have pink".

Our appointment at the US Embassy in Guatemala is on Tuesday, December 12th. We pick up our paperwork, showing that Maria is a US citizen on Wednesday afternoon and then we are free to come home.

We will be arriving at the Sioux Falls airport at 9:11pm on Friday, December 15th. I am soooo excited for everyone to meet Maria I can hardly stand it!! We will meet you at the airport and then there will be a party at our house!!

Such a Good Night!!

OK...I'm done with my pity party for the night...although I thought it was a good one.

I would like all of you to please consider giving to a very worthwhile cause. Sharon and her husband have worked in Guatemala for a long time. They have many projects that they need help with. You can copy this link http://www.mayanfamilies.org/ and learn of the great things they are doing in Guatemala to help families, women and children.

Here is an exerpt from thier website. I would encourage anyone that has toys they would like to donate to contact me, I will take them down with me on our next trip, or to contact Sharon dirctly and contribute. My family will be contributing to the Christmas Basket Project. I urge all of you that can, to do so as well. You can click on the link on the right (Mayan Families Projects & Mission) and get to their website.
Stephanie

Hello, we are the volunteers of Mayan Families and we are living in the highlands of the Lake Atitlan area in the small town of Panajachel, Guatemala, Central America. With your assistance we are making small miracles happen each day in peoples lives. One child at a time. One Family at a time. Every dollar donated goes to fund our many worthwhile projects. We all work on a Volunteer basis. We work within the Indigenous Mayan Communities on projects ranging from enrolling and keeping kids, especially girls, in school, helping single parent families deal with HIV/AIDS, Malnutrition, Basic Health Care, Organizing Medical and Dental Clinics, Animal Rescue and so much more.

MayanFamilies.org provides assistance to populations in distress, to victims of natural or man-made disasters. We do so irrespective of race, creed or religion.

Our projects are varied but because we have lived and been involved with indigenous community life in Guatemala for many years we find ourselves able to respond in a personal way to the immediate and actual needs as they appear.

We need your help, prayers and assistance!
CHRISTMAS PROJECT:

Please send your donations to Dwight Poage 2609 Hartford St. San Diego, CA. 92110-2315 and make checks payable to MAYAN FAMILIES.

Yes – it is coming up fast! We have collected about 600 toys that will be distributed at Christmas time at our party in San Jorge. We are only about half way there. We need a lot more. If you are coming to Guatemala and can bring toys …we would greatly appreciate it. These do not have to be new toys.




Our other Christmas project this year will be sponsoring families for CHRISTMAS BASKETS. We have many families, mostly single, abandoned & widowed mothers, who cannot afford to provide the traditional Christmas celebration for their family. A food basket will cost $30US and will provide a Christmas Tamale celebration meal for a family of 10 or more.

It will include:

The plastic basket that will hold all the food. This will be used by the family to stack dishes, wash dishes, hold food etc.

The food will include:
Oil, 15 lbs of Rice to make the tamales, a block of drinking chocolate (this is traditional to drink at midnight), a loaf of bread with which they eat the tamales at midnight, raisins for the tamales, grapes, apples, sugar, 5lbs of meat, tomatoes, one pound of coffee, leaves to wrap the tamales, cloves, pepper, sesame, pumpkin seeds. These are the requirements to make the Christmas tamales.
If you would like to sponsor a family for a Christmas Basket, we will send you a photo and history of the family and a photo when they receive their basket.

If you are coming down to Guatemala and can bring some toys, please let us know by e-mail at:
mayanfamilies@yahoo.com
Lets all Help these children have a Merry Christmas!

No News Today About Pink!!

I was sooo hoping to hear something today, even though today was a bit premature to think we would hear something!

Hopefully tomorrow, Friday, will be the best call yet! I soooo hope they call and let us know when our embassy appointment is so we can go get our angel!

I miss her so much and just need to go get her. I know that it will happen, I was just hoping it would happen today! UUUUGGGGG!!!!!

Oh Well...tomorrow is another day! I hope to report good news then!

Some have been asking about Christmas in Guatemala. I found this description today of the holiday season in Guatemala. Enjoy!

"Fiestas and Foods in the Christmas Tradition" by Jack Houston. Condensed from the December 2002 issue of Revue,Guatemala’s English-language magazine. Posted on the St. Johns University-Guatemala list serve.

December 7— Guatemalans spend the day engaged in a frenzy of cleaning, clearing out trash and burning it in front of their houses. The annual tradition is said to purge the homes and souls from evil in preparation for Mary, Joseph and the promised Christ child. The climax comes as night falls with the “Burning of the Devil” (Quemado del Diablo). A wooden “prince of darkness” is ignited with fanfare and fireworks under the watchful eyes of the bomberos (firemen).

December 8— “Fiesta de la Concepción” celebrates the Angel Gabriel’s announcement to the Virgin Mary that she is pregnant with the Messiah. [A parent emailed this correction: "Dec. 8, the feast of the Immaculate Conception is actually a celebration of Mary's conception without Original Sin."] It is a day for parish processions throughout the country and for setting up nativity scenes (nacimientos) in homes and public places. The favorite dessert on this holiday is crab apples (manzillas) prepared “en dulce.”

According to Catholic tradition, on December 12 the Virgin Mary appeared to a young boy in Mexico, Juan Diego (canonized as a saint 8/2002). On this day, commemorated as the “Fiesta de la Virgen de Guadalupe,” children dress in Maya clothing and go to church for a blessing. As they depart, the boys and girls join a procession, following a small image of the Virgin Mary.

December 15 marks the beginning of nightly parish “Posadas,” reenactments of the journey to Bethlehem. Pilgrims accompany Mary and Joseph, singing carols, beating turtle drums and playing other typical Guatemalan instruments. They knock on doors seeking shelter but are turned away until they reach a designated house, where everyone is invited inside. As the holy couple is bedded down in solemn ceremony, the pilgrims scramble for refreshments. The journey continues to another house the next night.

On December 24, Catholics traditionally gather for midnight mass, beginning around 10 p.m. At midnight, Christmas Day is greeted with prayers, well wishes and a barrage of fireworks. Families head home for gift giving and traditional foods—and more fireworks. The traditional Christmas Eve dinner is tamales. Traditional fiestas and foods vary in the villages, but corn is a main ingredient. Tamales, tamalitos, chuchitos and other traditional foods are sold outside churches, on street corners and in restaurants. A fruit punch of papaya, pineapple, crab apple, prunes, raisins, cinnamon, clove and shredded coconut is served hot or cold when friends and family come to call. Hot chocolate is another holiday treat, as are buñuelos, fried puff pastry fritters in syrup made of molasses or brown sugar, anise and cinnamon.

The festivities continue on December 28, Holy Innocents Day, when the baby Jesus is kidnapped from the nacimiento by a family member.

Some gifts are exchanged on January 6, commemorating the arrival of the Wise Men, who presented gifts to baby Jesus.

Christmas festivities come to an end on February 2, Day of the “Virgen de Candelaria,” when the infant Jesus is returned and the nativities are put away for another year. By tradition, the baby Jesus brings toys to the children. "What did the baby Jesus bring you?” is a common question.

I received news today that the attorneys have the new birth certificate. Maria's new birth certificate now says her name is Maria Rene Richter....that has a nice ring to it don't you think??

Our adoption coordinator also said that the attorney is going to try to submit us to the US Embassy on Wednesday.

Here is an excerpt of an email I received that details the how the next couple of steps go. As you will notice our adoption agency is very careful not to give us unrealistic expectations for the steps to be done really fast...but they usually are completed well within the timeframes they state below.

The Birth Certificate is translated into English and a request for a new Guatemalan passport for the child is made. This normally takes about one week or so. While these items are being completed, the attorney will present all of the necessary documents for the issuance of a PINK SLIP from the US Embassy.

The Embassy has instituted a system in which in which the attorneys are issued numbers representing their “place in line.” This number issuance policy and the wait for getting into the Embassy to submit these documents has been taking up to one week. Once the documents have been submitted, it can take up to yet another week for the Pink slip to be issued.

You need to be aware there are rare cases in which the Embassy can issue an I-72 notice requesting more documentation or amended documents before the Pink Slip can be issued. The I-72 notice is issued when there is an unforeseen problem with a document, but this is a rare occurrence, probably five times out of 80 adoptions, but that does not make you feel any better if you fall in the "five."

Once the Guatemalan Passport is completed by the Embassy, your lawyer will arrange to pick up the Pink Slip - This is probably the most frustrating time of the process as it can and does vary for a multitude of reasons about how long this will take. Please be patient while you await the news that we have Pink Slip in hand. Your coordinator will call you as soon as we have the news. Try to remember the attorneys want you to arrive in Guatemala just as much as you want to, but there are often uncontrollable events that cause delays of as long as a day or two.

With the Pink Slip in hand, the Embassy gives the Attorney an appointment date for the Visa interview. The appointment is normally set around 10 days after the issuance of the PINK SLIP, however it could be a week longer. At this time we will know approximately when you will expect to travel and you will need to be getting ready for that confirmation to come soon as it more times then not, comes with very little notice.

It would certainly be nice to have PINK by the end of the week...whew! I can't believe I actually get to write that statement. If we do then we will probably travel next week to go get our Maria!! I will keep you updated!

28 Days Till Christmas!!

Hello All:

We haven't heard anything yet and it's starting to make me a little crazy. I guess all of the other steps in this process drove me crazy before we achieved them so why would this step be any different!! Hopefully we will hear something in the next week or so and can go get Maria and get her home before Christmas! I saw this poem posted on an online forum today and thought I would share it with you.

Legacy of an Adopted Child
Author Unknown

Once there were two women, who never knew each other.
One you do not remember; the other you call mother.
Two different lives shaped to make yours one.

One became your guiding star; the other became your sun.
The first gave you life and the second was there to give it.
One gave you a nationality; the other gave you a name.
One gave you the seed for talent; the other gave you an aim.
One gave you emotions; the other calmed your fears.
One saw your first sweet smile; the other dried your tears.
One gave you up; it was all she could do.
The other prayed for a child and God led her straight to you.

And now you ask me through your tears,
the age-old question through the years:
Heredity or Environment
which are you the product of?
Neither, my darling child, Neither.
Just two different kinds of LOVE.

You may remember that I posted about a family that has gone through the process neck and neck with us. They have always been about a week ahead of us. Well...they received their embassy appointment today. When you receive your US Embassy appointment (the very last thing you have to do before bringing your baby home) it actually is on a pink piece of paper, thus the term...getting PINK! Mateo and his family got PINK today. Their embassy appointment is on December 1st. Hopefully we aren't too far behind. Boy, does their family have something to be thankful for this Thanksgiving!! Congratulations, Kathleen, Mateo and family!!

I haven't posted much because I continue to think that each day I may hear some good news...as of today, nothing!

I am a bit disappointed. We haven't heard that Maria's birthmother signed off on the adoption for the last time, we haven't heard that the birth certificate with her forever name has been requested yet, we haven't heard that our paperwork has been submitted to the US Embassy for final approval and our appointment to be able to bring Maria home has been made yet.

Don't get me wrong, we are not way out of line as far as time goes yet. It usually takes about 30 days for the entire process. We are today on day 12. Hopefully everything will get done in the next 18 days and we will be right on track!!

I did have to exchange the tickets that we purchased to go down to Guatemala over Thanksgiving today. I had to make a huge guess as to the day that I thought we would probably go down...I chose December 10th...a Sunday. I hope that I'm not too far off on my calculations and we can keep these tickets without having to make another change.

On a more positive note...I hope that everyone has a very Happy Thanksgiving! I will be cooking a turkey with all the trimmings this year for all to enjoy. Let's just hope that my mama taught me well and it turns out delectable!!


Happy Thanksgiving!! Please Make Sure And Give Thanks For All You Are Thankful For This Year!! I Know I Will!!

As you will notice, I have once again changed the intro music...Dave loves Cool and the Gang...I do to...But I thought this Barry Manilow?? song was an appropriate waiting song!

I will keep you updated, as soon as I know a travel date to get our Princess Maria...You will know!!!!!

Today's English to Spanish Word:

Disappointment

Decepción

My sister Amber told me that she was disappointed in me today. I have been neglecting my blogging duties. She said that she has been visiting the blog every day hoping to find a new English to Spanish Word and there hasn't been one. She's right...I have been very neglectful. (slapping my hands right now).

After the initial excitement of getting OUT of PGN and a day filled with many, many phone calls, emails and instant messages, Thursday was a whirlwind. Friday was filled with doing all of my duties that I didn't do on Thursday because I was too busy emailing, phoning and instant messaging. Saturday was Ambers bachelorette party. Let me tell you that I am waaayyy too old to do that anymore! Sunday it was all I could do to get off the couch! Monday and Tuesday was just plain neglectful...Sorry Amber...I will try to get better and not neglect the blog!

But on a more positive note, we received some new pictures tonight! Yea! Hopefully this is the last set of pictures we have to get from Guatemala! Here she is getting bigger and bigger and prettier and prettier!

Day 41 PGN--We Are Out!
Day 1 Maria is officially our Daughter!

We just got the call! We are out of PGN. Maria is officially our daughter!

I will post more later....can't really breathe right now!

Day 39 PGN
16 Days till we see Maria!

I received a medical update on Maria today. The medical updates aren't any more than her weight, length and the circumference of her head. They all look pretty normal and she is gaining weight so she seems pretty healthy.
Maria Rene Richter
10/13/06
17 pounds
65 cms. length
41 cms. head circumference
No word yet on our case. It's really starting to drive me batty....but there's nothing anyone can do about it, so we just sit and wait for the phone to ring. Please keep Dave, I and Maria in your prayers that we hear soon that we are out of PGN and that they haven't found a mistake in our paperwork that will delay our case. At this point, we can still hope that she will be home for Christmas...but time is starting to slip away and we may not make it. I guess I am really starting to feel the pressure of the adoption because today I just feel down. I'm trying to stay positive and focus on the fact that it's not "if" Maria will be home, but "when" she will be home....I guess some days are just harder than others. Now that I have let out my frustration and depressive thoughts on you I will sign off. I'm sure tomorrow will be a better day!

Day 38 PGN

Todays English To Spanish Word

Election

Elección

Tomorrow...Tuesday, November 7th is election day in the United States.

There are many important Gubanatorial, Congressional, County Commission and City Council seats up for election. There are also very important constitutional amendments, referrals and state laws on the ballot.

Please Go Vote.

Stand Up and Be Counted.

This Is Your Chance To Make A Difference In A Country Where Your Vote Really Does Matter!

OK...Off The Soap Box Now...But Please Vote....Your Country Needs You!

I found this video on YouTube. This baby's laugh is infectious. I don't think anyone would be able to listen to this kid and not laugh! Enjoy!

Hahaha

Day 36 PGN
19 Days till we get to see Maria


Someone recently posted these statistics on one of the adoption forums I belong to. This is an analysis of the PGN OUTS for the month of October. As you can tell, almost everyone, including me, that is in PGN is obsessed with getting out of PGN. We are also obsessed with trying to analyze any information we can get our hands on about our case or anyone elses. It makes me feel a little better to know that statistically based on October...and if I remember right....the numbers for September were very similar....we are right on track to be getting out of PGN soon!

PGN Outs After KickOuts

4 weeks or less (34 days or less) – 5 (10.0%)
5 weeks (35-41 days) – 16 (32.0%)
6 weeks (42-48 days) - 12 (24.0%)
7 weeks (49-55 days) – 5 (10.0%)
8 weeks (56-62 days) – 5 (10.0%)
9 weeks (63-69 days) – 4 (8.0%)
10 weeks (70-76 days) – 2 (4.0%)
11 weeks (77-83 days) – 1 (2.0%)
12 weeks or more (84 days +) - 0

All Outs

4 weeks or less (34 days or less) – 6 (9.0%)
5 weeks (35-41 days) – 21 (31.3%)
6 weeks (42-48 days) - 17 (25.4%)
7 weeks (49-55 days) – 7 (10.4%)
8 weeks (56-62 days) – 5 (7.5%)
9 weeks (63-69 days) – 5 (7.5%)
10 weeks (70-76 days) – 5 (7.5%)
11 weeks (77-83 days) – 1 (1.5%)
12 weeks or more (84 days +) – 0


Other facts:
Of the 67 outs for October 50 or 74.6% were after at least one KO.
Of the 4 weeks or less 1 had no KO, 1 had 1 KO, 3 had 2 KOs and 1 had 3 KOs

Day 35 PGN

Awhile ago..June 22nd...I had found this poem somewhere...probably on one of the adoption forums I belong to and had saved in my notes section. At that point, I thought it was a great poem, but it didn't have much relevance to me or our situation. I'm not sure how I stumbled back upon it today....but I'm sure God knows!

Dear God,
Please bring my beautiful baby home to me soon,
I need to rock her 'neath the light of the moon,
I need to kiss her warm soft, sweet face,
I want to teach her of your love and grace.
She needs to know I'm her parent for keeps,
She needs to know I'll watch while she sleeps.
I know you've a plan, you're much wiser than I,
But I fear you've forgotten, as time passes by.
I'll watch for a sign and I'll know that you're there,
I'll pray for some news and remember you care.
Love,
-A Waiting Parent

Dear Waiting Parent,
You think that the process moves slowly, not surely,
I promise it's both, but change mustn't come early.
Your faith must be strong, open and steady,
Your baby will be here, but not till I'm ready.
I'll never forget you; I do have a plan,
Not easily understood by mere man.
While you are here waiting for news you can share,
A foster family waits for pain they must bear.
To your wonderful child, they must say good-bye,
You know, to them, time really does fly!
Think of them as you wait and prepare,
Pray for their strength; be grateful they're there.
I'm with them too, just as I am with you.
I know how it is to be far from your child,
I want to hold YOU and make all your fears mild.
Believe, little one, that the sun is my kiss,
Believe that you'll share so much more than you'll miss!
Your baby is coming home to you soon!
Hold her, kiss her, 'neath the light of My moon.
Love,
-God

Day 34 PGN

Todays English to Spanish Word:

Proclamation

Proclamación

November is National Adoption Month

Presidential Proclamation for 2006 National Adoption Month

2006 President's Proclamation
National Adoption Month, 2006
A Proclamation by the President of the United States of America

During National Adoption Month, we encourage the adoption of young people in need, and we honor the adoptive and foster families who have offered children a loving and supportive home.

The best of America is reflected in the many citizens who have adopted children as their own. Mothers and fathers are the most important influences in a child's life, and children with caring, involved parents can better realize the full promise of America. Parents help their children thrive by encouraging them to aim high, work hard, and make good choices that will lead to healthy, satisfying lives. On November 18, loving families across America will celebrate National Adoption Day by finalizing their adoptions of children from foster care. This day will also raise awareness of the many children still waiting to be adopted and encourage more Americans to choose adoption.

My Administration is committed to helping place children with caring families. Through the Collaboration to AdoptUsKids project at www.adoptuskids.org, we are working to provide guidance and support for parents considering adoption. We are also offering tax credits to ease the financial burden on adoptive families, and we are providing funding to help strengthen State adoption services through the Adoption Incentives Program and the Promoting Safe and Stable Families Program. Together, these efforts can help connect children with loving families and help provide greater hope and opportunity for America's children.

During National Adoption Month, we pay tribute to the parents who have opened their hearts and homes and helped provide love and stability for young people. By caring for the youngest members of our society, these families are helping our children grow into successful adults and building the future of our country.

NOW, THEREFORE, I, GEORGE W. BUSH, President of the United States of America, by virtue of the authority vested in me by the Constitution and laws of the United States, do hereby proclaim November 2006 as National Adoption Month. I call upon all Americans to observe this month with appropriate programs and activities to honor adoptive families and to participate in efforts to find permanent homes for waiting children.

IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I have hereunto set my hand this thirtieth day of October, in the year of our Lord two thousand six, and of the Independence of the United States of America the two hundred and thirty-first.

GEORGE W. BUSH

Day 32 PGN

Today's English to Spanish Word:

November

Noviembre

Tomorrow is the first day of November. It is also All Saints Day, a national holiday in Guatemala, so all government offices will be closed. I guess we won't hear anything (if we hear anything this week??) until Thursday at the earliest. I know I am really getting my hopes up thinking that we will hear that we are out of PGN this week, but a girl can dream can't she! Oh well, November is full of promise....I can't imagine that we wouldn't get out of PGN before we visit during Thanksgiving, but if we don't, I can at least look forward to that weekend! Just in case you're curious, here are the translations for the rest of the calendar months.
January Enero
February Febrero
March Marzo
April Abril
May Mayo
June Junio
July Julio
August Agosto
September Septiembre
October Octubre
November Noviembre
December Diciembre

Mateo Is Coming Home!
I was just about to sign on late this afternoon and post a kind of bummed out post that I hadn't heard much good news this week....when I got a very hurried email from a friend of mine. She got out of PGN today!

I was so excited when I read her email, you would have thought I just received news that I was out! I am so happy for her, her family, and Mateo, her new son. When you are out of PGN your adoption is final...they just have to get a new birth certificate with his new last name and the names of his new mommy and daddy. Then they have to apply for a passport and a visa and next thing you know they will be on the plane to go get him.

Kathleen and I received our referrals (knowledge of who our babies were) on the same day, May 5, 2006. We have the same agency and the same attorney in Guatemala. We have corresponded almost daily since then. We have gone step by step together in the process. We were slowed down a bit with our 171 (approval to adopt an orphan from the US Immigration) so we have always been one week behind her.

Everyone please cross your fingers, toes, and your eyes (I have heard that is doubly effective) and pray that the trend continues and we get out of PGN next week!

At the bottom of Kathleens' emails she has a saying below her signature...it says...The Waiting Is The Hardest Part...Tom Petty
So Kathleen, Family and Mateo....Here is a little Tom Petty, Just for You!

Thanksgiving In Guatemala??

I asked our adoption coordinator about the possibility of visiting again and she said we could, so I have booked the air and hotel.

We will be spending Thanksgiving in Guatemala! I will miss all of the great food and spending time with my family...but I do work with them every day, so what is there really to miss?? Except of course the turkey!

My husband asked, What if we get out of PGN next week...won't Thanksgiving be about the time we would travel? I can only pray that's what happens. I would give my right foot to be out of PGN next week and have to change the dates on this set of tickets. I don't care how much the fee is...please let that be my worry! But if we don't get out of PGN in the next week or so, it will be December before we travel to bring Maria home for good, so at least now I have something to look forward to.

I know most of you are thinking...boy is she impatient! and I know that I am...I don't care! I really don't have much patience left and at least for the next few weeks I have something concrete to think about...Seeing Maria Again!

Yea! I'm gonna go look at my online reservations one more time...and just dream about being there!

Stephanie

Day 25 PGN

Today's English to Spanish Phrase:

I'm veering from my normal English to Spanish Word and jumping right into a Phrase, I hope it translates correctly!

Think Positive Thoughts

Piense Los Pensamientos Positivos

Friday will end 4 full weeks in PGN for us. Usually people hear something in the 4th, 5th or 6th week. Hopefully, we will hear the words, "You are out of PGN", but it's possible for us to hear, "You have been kicked out of PGN again". Please think positive thoughts for us for the next couple of weeks. We pray that we hear , "You are out of PGN".


















It only takes a single thought to move the world.

Day 23 PGN

Today's English to Spanish Word

Shower

Ducha

Yesterday and today we had bridal showers for my youngest sister Amber. On Saturday we went to Parker to Pat's Aunt's house and had a great time. Today the shower was at my house and I think everything turned out perfectly. Here are a few pictures.

Amber and Taryn



Amber and our sister in law-Nikki



Stephanie-Amber-Valerie-Nikki
P.S. I usually don't have a giant bag of toilet paper in the dining room. We played a game where there were teams of 5 persons who had to choose a model and then design a dress and headpiece out of toilet paper. It was a hoot!

Day 22 PGN

Although today is Saturday and PGN isn't open we still count all of the days! Or at least I do!

Todays English to Spanish Word:

Pictures

Cuadros

We received some pictures of Maria from our adoption coordinator this week. They were actually taken on October 2nd before we went on our second visit trip. I always enjoy getting these pictures, because I get to see how Maria is interacting with others when it's not us taking the pictures.


Yesterday concluded 3 weeks in PGN after we were re-submitted. I am still hopeful that we will conform to the 4.5 week average of being in PGN. That would mean that we should expect to "get out of PGN" in the next week to two weeks. I know that I am probably being overly optimistic about the timeline and that's OK...it's what keeps me going. PGN seems to have very little rhyme or reason as to whose case gets signed off and when. Some people have been waiting months in PGN while others get out in a matter of days. I belong to a couple of Guatemalan Adoption Forums on the internet. These are places where adoptive parents go to exchange information, ideas and lend support. Of course one of the main topics are the timelines....everyone looks and counts the days of everyone else to see how long their process is taking and try to predict their own. You can see our timeline on the right. I can't wait until I can add the line:
WE ARE OUT OF PGN!
Have A Great Day!
Stephanie

Day 18 PGN

Today's English to Spanish Word:

Budget

Presupuesto

Today we worked on budgets all day. Seven people in one room looking at tiny numbers on a screen. EEEKKK! And it's not over yet...this is just round one. I had better get a good nights sleep so my brain will actually work tomorrow!
Stephanie

Day 17 PGN

Today's English To Spanish Word:

Gloomy

Melancólico

It's a gloomy day in South Dakota today. The weather seems to fit my mood today. I sure do wish Mr. PGN would sign off on our case so we could bring Maria home. Here he is hopefully signing off on ours and many others cases!

Amber bought the most beautiful dress for Maria to wear to the wedding this weekend. Please Mr. PGN man sign off so she can wear it!

Prayer of Children

It's a sad day.
A friend of mine that I met through this process and have been corresponding with found out yesterday that her baby passed away. She had gone down to Guatemala at the end of September to visit sweet Silvia. Silvia contracted roto virus and was taken to the hospital but passed on Thursday afternoon. Our thoughts and prayers are with Keri and her family as they try to work through their sorrow and grief.

Stephanie

Maria's Foster Mother gave us a disposable camera that we had left with her on our first visit. We took it in and got it processed and it had some great shots of Maria and Lidia. Here are a few of the highlights.




Don't tell Mommy, but I always sit on top of this sofa like this. Don't pay any attention to those hands that look like they are holding me...they're not...they're props. I do this all the time! I'm preparing for my future career as a stunt woman!

Someday I will either be the Queen of England or Miss America...Either way I need to start practicing now. How is this look for a starter PR shot??

Oh My Goodness! Jack And The Beanstock Couldn't Have Asked For A Better Leading Lady....Could Have They??

Well we are back to reality, South Dakota and work today. Not much fun and I would really rather be back in Guatemala with Maria. We had to give her back to her Foster Mother, Lidia, yesterday morning so we could catch our flight at Noon. I found it much harder to give her back and walk away this time as compared to the first time we visited and then came home...I think I now know how hard it is to be here without her and that made it much more difficult to leave. No word yet as to when she will be able to come home. We have been in PGN (back in PGN after our kick out) for only 1.5 weeks so I guess we probably should plan on at least another 3 to 4 weeks before we hear that we are out of PGN and another 2 to 3 weeks to travel to get her. I hope that I don't read this blog in 2 months and we still haven't gotten out yet! I think I will go crazy! Dave would say that I am already there! OK...enough wallowing (is that a word??) in my self pity...here are a few final pictures of our second trip to visit my Maria. Remember you can click on any picture and go to a website that hosts all of our pictures or click on the link on the right and go to the same website. Enjoy!
Stephanie

It Was Mommy and Daddy's Anniversary on Sunday Night, So We All Got Dressed Up And Went To A Fancy Dinner...And Me In My Fancy Dress!

How Many Times Will My Daddy Say "Like A Fat Kid Loves Cake?" To Try To Get Me To Smile? You Will Have To Watch To Find Out!

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My Mom's A Dork Too! See How Many Times She Says "Let Me See You Smile!" Does She Really Think I'm Going To Fall For That Old Trick?? I Don't Think So!


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Here's A Pic Of Me And My Daddy As We Wait To Go Eat On Saturday Night.

And Here's My Mommy And Me At The Sunday Breakfast Buffet.

Hey Everyone We're Just Chilling At The Marriott
Now Give Me My Bottle Or I'm Gonna Have To Hurt You!

Why Don't I Ever Get The Remote??


Here I Am In Action!

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I Love My Daddy!


And My Mommy!


See More Pictures By Clicking On The Link To The Right. You Can Also View Pictures From Our Previous Trip.
See Ya Soon!

We Are Back In Guatemala

We got to Guatemala at about 12:15 pm today. The only little glitch we had was the the suitcase with all of Maria's clothes didn't arrive. We were on the last flight that Delta had for today, so hopefully the suitcase will arrive tomorrow. It's not too big of deal though, Lidia, her foster mother brought her all she would need, we just had lots of new things to give her.
Here is a picture of the Guatemala City International Airport

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Maria has a pretty bad diaper rash and isn't feeling too well today, so she took a little nap this afternoon and I couldn't resist taking a picture when she was actually relaxed and sleeping. She also has taken a liking to her new friend Furry! Furry luckily was packed in our bag and not hers!

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I also couldn't resist taking a close up of her incredibly cute little feet!

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We're Back Into PGN!

I was told today that we were re-submitted to PGN on Friday, September 29th. The average time line for cases that have been re-submitted to PGN seems to be around 4 to 5 weeks right now. Hopefully this will hold true and we will be getting the call that we are out of PGN around the end of October and then we will just have a couple of weeks to wait as a new Birth Certificate is produced, a Guatemalan Passport is issued and and US Visa is issued with Maria's new name on them. Hopefully the reviewers at PGN have found all of the discrepancies there were to find and the next interaction we have with them will be the call that we're out!

Dave and I are getting packed to go to Guatemala on Thursday evening/Friday morning. We simply can't wait to get there. We will be posting pictures and video's from the hotel while we are there, so check out the site this weekend.