Russian orphan appreciating her new life in South Dakota
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Tue Dec 26, 2006 2:56 pm (PST)
Russian orphan appreciating her new life in South Dakota
By Russ Keen, Aberdeen American News
ABERDEEN - Lessons in the art of gracefully and gratefully receiving
Christmas gifts might be taken from a 5-year-old Aberdeen girl who, until a
few months ago, lived in an orphanage in Russia.
Other than a few clothes, Natasha Nicole Cleveland's only worldly possession
when she came to Aberdeen was a little cross fastened to a piece of twine to
wear as a necklace, her mother, Nancy Cleveland of Aberdeen, said.
Nancy adopted Natasha in the spring. The two became a family on Easter
Sunday.
"She brought nothing. We started from scratch," Nancy said.
Every little thing Natasha has acquired since astounds her, Nancy said.
Natasha is not the kind of kid who turns up her nose when she gets socks
instead of toys. Nancy recalled her daughter's amazement when she opened the
first gifts from her mother when they first met at the orphanage about a
year ago. They were simple gifts of clothing, including socks.
Natasha examined every item slowly, carefully and lovingly, looked up at her
mother's face and said in Russian, "Are these really all for me?"
"She couldn't believe it," Nancy said.
Natasha gave Nancy a profound gift that day, too.
"That very first day I met her she called me 'Mama,'" Nancy said. "I didn't
expect that. I was taken aback."
Other simple gifts: Natasha is also not the kind of kid to whine when it's
time to jump in the tub. It was like she had entered heaven when she slid
into her first bathtub full of warm water in her Aberdeen home, Betty
Sanders of Aberdeen, Natasha's grandmother and Nancy's mother, said.
"She just relished being in that much water," Sanders said. "She laughed and
giggled, dunked her head and laid back in it."
Nancy said she's not sure how the orphanage kept kids clean.
"They don't tell you a lot. But it was obvious Natasha didn't know about
bathtubs," Nancy said.
Long hair
Natasha is also discovering the simple gift of pretty hair. The 50 kids at
the orphanage near Pskov, Russia, all had butch haircuts - boys and girls,
Nancy said, apparently for hygiene.
"People here thought she was a boy," Nancy said. "So, she has been wanting
long hair."
As Nancy related the story, Natasha jumped on the back of the sofa on which
her mother sat and began to play with her mother's long hair.
"She loves to put pigtails in my hair," Nancy said.
Natasha now has her own. Last week for the first time, her blond hair
reached the length that she could have two pigtails.
"That first day she spent hours flipping them with her fingers," Nancy said.
And Natasha is not the kind of kid to crab while traveling long distances.
When she left the orphanage with her mother, they boarded a train for a
12-hour trip to Moscow. Undoubtedly, it was Natasha's first sustained
glimpse of the world outside of the orphanage, Nancy said.
"She was like a bird let out of a cage that night on that train," Nancy
said. "She kept moving around looking out of the windows. She stayed awake
for hours beyond her bedtime."
Shares what she gets
Natasha is also not the kind of kid to hoard what she gets. Her very first
meal in Aberdeen was a roast-beef dinner prepared by her grandmother.
Natasha filled her plate with all the warm goodies and promptly,
unexpectedly handed it over to her mother. The moment was tender and
touching beyond words, Nancy said.
"She wanted to make sure I ate first."
This is, of course, Natasha's first U.S.-style Christmas. When she tasted
her first candy cane a few days ago, her bright eyes conveyed the delight
her taste buds were experiencing, Nancy said. The girl offered her mother a
lick on the cane.
"She wanted me to try it," Nancy said. "She always wants me to know what she
is feeling."
Mostly, they are good feelings.
"There are so many firsts for her. There is so much for her to absorb. She
goes through most days with excitement and giggles."
Learning English
Natasha is learning English rapidly and has reached the point where she
talks in sentences of a few words each, Nancy said. Natasha shared a few
thoughts in English. She likes her cousins, some of whom live far away.
"Talk to them on the telephone," Natasha said. That's one of her favorite
activities.
She also sang her ABCs, counted to 20 and sang, with her mother, "You better
watch out. You better not pout. You better not cry. I'm telling you why.
Santa Claus is coming to town."
One of her favorite phrases is "Oh, my gosh," which she utters whenever
something amazes her - which is frequently, Nancy said.
Natasha also likes to do dishes, help clean and cook.
"Whatever you're doing, she wants to do. We wonder how long it will last,"
Sanders said with a laugh.
Fulfillment for Nancy
Not only does Natasha have a mom. Nancy has her first child.
"We wanted to have kids," she said of her and her late husband, Steve
Cleveland.
He died of cancer in 1987 in San Bernardino, Calif., where the couple lived.
Medication he was on during his illness made it unwise to conceive, Nancy
said.
Steve had blond hair and blue eyes, as does Natasha. That would please
Steve, Nancy said.
"And she has his last name," she said.
A sister of Nancy's, who lives in Maryland with her husband, adopted a boy
from Russia two years before Nancy adopted Natasha. That's when Nancy
started thinking about it. She helped her sister and brother-in-law through
their process, and they helped her.
Natasha has filled a void in Nancy's life, Sanders said with tears welling.
Also, Natasha is Sanders' only grandchild who lives close enough for daily
contact.
"It's nice to have a grandchild around to spoil," she said. "It's just a
thrill."
Life has not been perfect for Natasha since finding a mom. Shortly after she
came to Aberdeen, Nancy learned through an interpreter that Natasha missed
her friends at the orphanage.
"She wanted to fly back and bring her friends over here," Nancy said.
But now she has close friends in her neighborhood and at her preschool, Dare
to Dream, Nancy said.
Like most kids, she hopes to get stuff from Santa - "a baby-doll high
chair," she said.
The girl has told her mother, "Santa needs to bring me presents because I
have been good." And she also wonders how Santa will know where she is on
Christmas because the family plans to travel.
Worship, prayer
Natasha loves to attend Mass at Sacred Heart Catholic Church, where she was
baptized Oct. 14, Nancy's birthday, wearing a beaded dress Natasha selected.
She becomes upset during Mass if she can't see the Rev. Edward Pierce, Nancy
said.
Natasha loves to sing in church, repeating the word "Alleluia" while other
worshippers sing other words, Nancy said.
And Natasha likes to pray before she goes to sleep.
"I always ask her, 'What do you want to pray about tonight?'" Nancy said.
Natasha often chooses other people and recently expressed what could be
called her Christmas wish for each and every child in orphanages.
"One night, she said she wanted to pray for all kids to have a mama or a
papa," Nancy said.
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